Monday, November 5, 2018

The Liahona was a Family Compass and a Leadership Tool


After women's conference president Nelson asked the sisters to read the Book of Mormon before the end of the year. At that time I had been in the book of Ether and although I was nearly finished with the Book of Mormon, I decided to start over and begin a study of the Book of Mormon with the emphasis of seeking for learning the attributes of the Savior. I have found the peaceful Saviors name in varying form and theme everywhere, as well as Christ-like attributes in the prophets who wrote about Him. As I went through the 1st book of Nephi and contemplated Lehi's journey to the promise land, the Spirit whispered to my heart. Nephi was a Godly man who understood and loved family, who believed and understood unity which aided him in Gathering the Family of God to the promised land, something that many would have abandoned in his circumstance.

You see, when the Lehi family completed their mission to; obtain their genealogy, their scripture's/ the Brass Plates, understand the purpose of their mission through revelation of the Tree of Life and marry Ishmeal's daughters they were permitted to move forward on their journey. This next call came with direct guidance to move forward as a group with the introduction of the Liahona a divine compass directed by the Lord to call that everyone in the Lehi party unite under the first law of heaven, obedience. Yes, everyone needed to be obedient in order for the spindles to carefully, specifically guide them through the wilderness. This ball of curious workmanship gave specific and plain direction to make it to the promised land, including where to find food! The Liahona was given, in true Patriarchal order, to the Patriarch of the family, Lehi. This extraordinary tool from the Lord was a family compass, a group compass. This was a compass meant to unify the Lehi and Ishmael family in their spiritual and temporal journey to the promise land. This unity was also meant to include each person's individual process of being an obedient, covenant keeping people and accomplishing the task to bring not just one person, but the entire family through the Atonement of the Savior, even our beloved leader Nephi.

In the past I have thought of the Liahona from the perspective of correcting the disobedient and reminding them to obey. For instance when the family faced starvation when food became scarce from the bows loosing their spring. The breaking point for our valiant Lehi happened when Nephi broke his bow. Nephi is learning the process of overcoming hardship, even negativity in any way and you will see his efforts will be blesses. Nephi came up with a solution made a new hand crafted bow, then asked his father to ask the Lord where to find food to hunt, Lehi was chastened and repented. Only after repentance and Nephi looking upon the Liahona did the spindles begin to work again and the family had direction to obtain food. Nephi went and obtained food.

This is when it became obvious that the Liahona was a blessing to Nephi to continue to be ever obedient, optimistic, full of love filled Nephi. I imagine the evaluation Nephi went through when he realized that this compass would only work when the family worked together in obedience. It probably brought him great joy for the family to have a witness of the boundaries the Lord was giving them to be dedicated to the cause. It probably also became a blessing to Nephi's leadership role for the rest of the family that this compass was a family effort even through discouragement, hardship and persecution to continue in "with all energy" to motivate, cultivate, nature, strengthen, promote, correct, fortify and rally an entire family. We see the fruits of his labor in 2 Nephi Chpter 5 verses 6 through 16 where they prospered and were able to build and enjoy the blessings of the temple. Nephi needed the Liahona.

Despite physical and mental abuse Nephi had always been positive, encouraging and looking for solutions and spoke to his brethren, encouraging them. When the miracle of finding food became apparent to Nephi, I imagine Nephi did some true evaluation of his role in the family. When Nephi sought direction on the Liahona, imagine his thrill as he went forth to the place directed and was able to "slay wild beasts." Nephi had discovered a pattern of "group effort" and taking action even in the most difficult circumstances. I am certain it took sincere and heartfelt prayer as each trial or challenge encouraged him to find insight when persecution had been ongoing and eminent as they traveled this journey together. I imagine these trials had Nephi turning to the scriptures for understanding that gave him power to speak to his brethren in boldness, love and all energy of heart. Nephi loved the scriptures. It was this dedication to act, line upon line that gave him the ability to discern between his own voice and the voice of the Lord even to the protection of his life and he always looked forward to seek for ways to protect his posterity through record keeping.

Nephi and his mission to support the Lords program was protected. No, Nephi was not always popular, but he was protected from death and was given the strength to endure persecution, keep perspective that this journey to the promised Land was about Gathering the Family of God in both a literal and theological sense. He valued life, he loved everyone, Nephi became a shepherd. As Gary E Stephenson said, "We understand that a true shepherd loves his sheep, knows each one by name, and “has personal interest in” them."

As you go forth in striving to do good and be good, our modern day Liahona's; from scriptures, words of the prophets, to our own patriarchal blessings, all are meant to encourage and strengthen our willingness to continue to gather the Family of God. We need each other warts and all. The preparation of the Second Coming of the Savior, the Plan of Salvation is meant to be a FAMILY/Group EFFORT. Gathering is meant to influence, encourage repentance to the struggling and faint of heart, to the most valiant hearts to even the most wicked hearts. Those who are striving to be valiant need to be reminded to not give up on our brothers and sisters with whom we are traveling. Even when those we are closest with struggle with testimonies, complaining, depression, and discouragement, remember to turn to the word of God! You may even come across those who might throw out accusations, spreading false reports. Sink to your knees in prayer, plead to be filled with charity, the pure love of God. Nephi followed the Savior's example he witnessed in vision. Elder Holland reminded us in conference that the Lord was "Wounded in the house of his friends." The Lord was the ultimate "Prince of Peace" and as we follow His example and the example of Nephi, we will be successful in our efforts to gather the Family of God. You will find strength and power to pause, ponder, kneel in humility to ask for the guidance from a loving Heavenly Father, apply the Atonement of the Savior, tune out the noise, listen to the Spirit deeply, seek out and search the scriptures, do a search for a conference talk,  to discern your own heart, to see others for whom they really are. You will know how to proceed in righteousness, love God, his children and support his program as Nephi did,  he loved his Father in Heaven, his Savior Jesus Christ and supported His program.
Nephi needed a family compass as he strove to Gather the Family of God to the promise land.

Elder Eyring Said:
This is the work of our generation, what the Apostle Paul called “the dispensation of the fulness of times,” when he said God would “gather together in one all things in Christ, both which are in heaven, and which are on earth; even in him” (Ephesians 1:10). This is made possible through the atoning work of God’s Beloved Son, Jesus Christ. Because of Him, our family members, “who sometimes were far off are made nigh by the blood of Christ. For he is our peace, who hath made both one, and hath broken down the middle wall of partition between us” (Ephesians 2:13–14). You have felt this, as I have, when you have experienced an increase of love as you looked at the picture of an ancestor. You have felt it in the temple when the name on a card seemed like more than a name, and you couldn’t help but sense that this person was aware of you and felt your love.
I testify that God the Father wants His children home again, in families and in glory. The Savior lives. He directs and blesses this work, and He watches over and guides us. He thanks you for your faithful service in gathering His Father’s family, and I promise you the inspired help that you seek and need. In the name of Jesus Christ, amen.

Saturday, June 16, 2018

The Art of Peacemaking


Learning the art of deliberately speaking and living to be a peacemaker is something I am truly studying to understand. 

I was recently caught off guard with a contentious situation. I felt deeply hurt and found myself truly wrestling with negativity. With personal effort and time my heart is finally feeling peace about the situation and I am actually extremely grateful for all I learned as I studied and wrestled. As I studied, I found peacemaking is not what you might think, it is not a passive attempt, it is real, it's a living, breathing spiritual awareness, it is also bold and it yet it can be sometimes very difficult to discern how to approach a situation, but it is a blessing. I gave my 6/7 year old primary class the challenge this week to be a peacemaker 
‏in the home. I better take the challenge to heart
and apply peacemaking to all aspects of my life!

I recently asked Dr. Glenn Kimber advice on what to do when you have spoken in peace, yet spoken truth and it is rejected with contention. Or even, not said anything at all And contention ensues. His reply. You need to read the whole thing in order to understand the entire message.
"I sit on my hands. My wife asked me once while at church if I was going to speak up and correct doctrine and I did not. I sat on my hands (figuratively speaking). You see, we are all at different places of understanding. We all learn 'line upon line' not 'dissertation upon dissertation' or 'thesis upon thesis.''
Then he said what really struck me. 


"When the Savior was speaking to Pilot, he had a nice conversation. Pilot was willing to listen and found no wrong within Jesus. He spoke to his people and gave parables. He spoke to some and rebuked them. And with wicked wicked Harrod, he said nothing."
Peace is personal. It requires the careful focus of peacemaking with the deliberate attempt to strive for the ability to have spiritual discernment and to understand how to proceed. This is truly a lifelong pursuit and well worth the effort. 


President Nelson states:
"My concern is that contention is becoming accepted as a way of life. From what we see and hear in the media, the classroom, and the workplace, all are now infected to some degree with contention. How easy it is, yet how wrong it is, to allow habits of contention to pervade matters of spiritual significance, because contention is forbidden by divine decree:
“The Lord God hath commanded that men should not murder; that they should not lie; that they should not steal; that they should not take the name of the Lord their God in vain; that they should not envy; that they should not have malice; that they should not contend one with another.” (2 Ne. 26:32.) https://www.lds.org/general-conference/1989/04/the-canker-of-contention?lang=eng
A divine decree is enough for me to strive daily to have the kind of peace God mandates for all man.



https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2008/10/our-hearts-knit-as-one?lang=eng

"If there are barriers, it is because we ourselves have created them. We must stop concentrating on our differences and look for what we have in common; then we can begin to realize our greatest potential and achieve the greatest good in this world. Sister Marjorie P. Hinckley once said, “Oh, how we need each other. Those of us who are old need you who are young. And, hopefully, you who are young need some of us who are old. It is a sociological fact that women need women. We need deep and satisfying and loyal friendships with each other.” Sister Hinckley was right; oh, how we need each other!" Bonnie L Oscarson
https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2014/04/sisterhood-oh-how-we-need-each-other?lang=eng



Tuesday, March 27, 2018

Yoked to Christ in Marriage


Christ is our Redeemer and has promised that if we go to him, through his Atoning Sacrifice he will lighten our burdens being yoked to him.

Matthew 11: 28-30
28 “...Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in eheart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”



1828 Definition of YOKE = YOKE, noun [G., Latin , Gr.]
1. A piece of timber, hollowed or made curving near each end, and fitted with bows for receiving the necks of oxen; by which means two are connected for drawing. From a ring or hook in the bow, a chain extends to the thing to be drawn, or to the yoke of another pair of oxen behind.
YOKEverb transitive
1. To put a yoke on; to join in a yoke; as, to yoke oxen, or a pair of oxen.
2. To couple; to join with another.
Cassius, you are yoked with a lamb.

So this is how you and the Savior through His atonement are yoked together.

There are days, days that marriage feels like a huge burden. The person you dearly love, seems to speak in a language you don't understand nor understands you. Communication feels stiffened, patience is low, daily trials feel heavy, change is stagnant or slow. Trials and personal imperfections burden marriage. Many people struggle to approach these challenges and find joy and love.

Bruce C Hafen spoke about marriage:

"Every marriage is tested repeatedly by three kinds of wolves. The first wolf is natural adversity. Second, the wolf of their own imperfections will test them. The third wolf is the excessive individualism that has spawned today’s contractual attitudes."

However, there is a dialogue in these difficult moments, that I have forgotten. A remembrance and rejoicing I have neglected. Through baptism and confirmation, I covenanted that I would follow my brother, my Savior (our Savior) Jesus Christ! I would take his name upon me. I would follow his commandments, his example. In that promise that I recommit weekly through the sacrament, I am turning all I have, all I am over to my Lord. Everything. He paid the price for me, for you.
Now, I do not mean to be trite here. I can definitely list the terrible struggles that afflict us in life but do we remember that the Lord suffered everything for us?
He knows the struggle of debt, the joy of paying it off, he felt it all. He knows how it feels to struggle months and months on end with a disabling sickness in pregnancy.  He knows the immense pain of giving birth. He knows the depression onset when the dishes are not done and the laundry is piled high. He knows how complacency feels, laziness feels, and even the struggle of when a spouse is not on the same page. For our Lord bore it all, for all of us.
Then the joy that comes through the Lord, willingly, lovingly, plentifully. That immense, beautiful, never-ending joy.

In the beginning of the marriage covenant we are yoking our marriage to the Savior through the covenants we make in the temple.
We together yoked as one complete whole. His sacrifice is seen in tandem. His sacrifice was truly for ALL sorrow and ALL joy. The sorrow is swallowed up, literally and the joy is poured out, overflowing. I think that is a pretty good deal, don't you?

Let's explore covenant marriage again.

Marriage is a covenant by nature:
"Marriage is by nature a covenant, not just a private contract one may cancel at will. Jesus taught about contractual attitudes when he described the “hireling,” who performs his conditional promise of care only when he receives something in return. When the hireling “seeth the wolf coming,” he “leaveth the sheep, and fleeth … because he … careth not for the sheep.” By contrast, the Savior said, “I am the good shepherd, … and I lay down my life for the sheep.”2 Many people today marry as hirelings. And when the wolf comes, they flee. This idea is wrong. It curses the earth, turning parents’ hearts away from their children and from each other." Bruce C Hafen

How can we treat marriage as a covenant?
The Lord Has promised:

Mosiah 18:8
“...as ye are desirous to come into the fold of God, and to be called his people, and are willing to bear one another’s burdens, that they may be light;”

"When we observe the covenants we make at the altar of sacrifice, we discover hidden reservoirs of strength." Bruce C Hafen

The principle of the number 3 is unity.
Being yoked equally in marriage 
is only attainable when we are 1st yoked to Christ.

Gimmel is the third Hebrew letter and number 3.
Anciently they wrote the letter at a foot. It means to carry, lift up,
gather, walk, gives direction, charity; all qualities of Christ.
For more study on the number three and the triangle go to: http://www.keystoneed.com/numbers1.html

When we are Yoked in Christ and trust/obey him completely
equal yoke is attainable and a relief and joy in marriage.
The principle of the equilateral triangle = 
When growing closer to Christ we form healthy boundaries, 
good attributes that form Christlike love for our spouse.
This can draw us closer togeather. This keeps each of us clear as to how to act in Faith in our marriage. Any marriage. _

So these 

Peace be with you my friends and may you have strength to act in faith! -Sharee Jones

For More study please read Bruce C Hafen's conference talk on Marriage: https://www.lds.org/general-conference/1996/10/covenant-marriage?lang=eng
For more study for bearing our burdens with Christ and applying this chart to every relationship[ see: April 2013 Conference Talk
By David A Bednar
“Bear up their Burdens with Ease” https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2014/04/bear-up-their-burdens-with-ease?lang=eng
What are our loads in life? Are our loads providing spiritual traction? When we are yoked to Christ, what are the loads we are pulling?

The unique burdens in each of our lives help us to rely upon the merits, mercy, and grace of the Holy Messiah. - Elder Bednar

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